Hi from the Netherlands and great website, I am learning a lot from your website.I am a student here in the Netherlands and am basically from India. Last Friday, I met an Indian girl who is living here for last 20 years as her parents are settled here. We met at a railway station when the trains were cancelled and we were just waiting.
I noticed a cute looking Indian girl, so started talking by asking do you know whether they are going to arrange bus for us. We got talking and it was a very good conversation, probably lasted about an hour including the waiting and the journey till another station.She was asking many questions about me, she was laughing a lot and a few times with her arms all throwing out of excitement. When the train resumed and we were about to reach a station where I should walk home and she should take another train, she told we have been talking a lot, I don’t know your name.
I hadn’t asked her name before.So we introduced our names and got outside the train. Before she took her connection train, I asked her would you like to keep in touch and she said yes. Then she told I have a facebook account, as soon as I heard facebook, I took my mobile out and told her lets exchange numbers that’s better and handed her my mobile phone. So she started typing her number on my touchscreen. Although she was typing her number, it was not getting texted as she was touching the screen very soft.Then I took over the phone and asked her to say it for me and I started typing.
When I told this she was blushing and telling probably I am too soft. Before leaving when I told her it was nice meeting you, she replied, you are here for 4 more years right.
Everything sounded like she is interested. But I noticed that although she’s living in the Netherlands for last 20 years, she is still very Indian. I mean conservative in nature – she still wear clothes of a typical Indian girl and was receiving about 10-20 phone calls from her dad as her train was cancelled!
Now, obviously I want to know more about her as it seems like something can be worked out. However, the follow up has not been that great so far.In a nutshell, this is what has happened during the follow up,Friday 8th, we met, had a mutually interested good conversation and exchanged numbers.Saturday 9th, I sent first sms (which doesn’t require a reply, basically i had texted my website address so that she could gather more information about me. Being a conservative typical Indian girl, I thought that she would not feel comfortable to start coming out with me right away) –
No replySunday 10th, I called her – She didn’t pick upSunday 10th, after she not picking up the call, I found her on facebook and sent a friends requestTuesday 12th, she accepted facebook request at 12 in the afternoon.Tuesday 12th, I sent an sms joke which she would have understood if she had followed up and in my second sms she would have got the joke.
This was at 5 pm in the evening – No replyWednesday 13th, I sent an email, this time with another joke as if nothing wrong happened and informing that I have sent a gtalk request as it seems you are not interested to talk over phone nowSaturday 16th, she accepted the gtalk request, but no reply to email.It seems like she takes time to make friends and that she’s testing my patience by not responding probably to see whether I freak out and abuse or send bad emails. I am just ignoring her indifference every time.And whenever I contacted her after a failed previous communication, I don’t even mention or talk about it.I am trying to be patient and go ahead with my other works, hoping that with time she would understand that I am a good person to go out with.Now I would be very glad to get some help here. What should I do in this situation? Presently, after the Wednesday 13th’s communication, I haven’t initiated any communication as I find it might portray myself as immature and needy. Your suggestion as to what next would be very valuable.Thanks